tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18306572.post114756191854946846..comments2024-02-15T02:00:50.843-08:00Comments on This is My Truth: Sanjuktahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17512206498275295419noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18306572.post-1154537555905716522006-08-02T09:52:00.000-07:002006-08-02T09:52:00.000-07:00I read this mail after all the stuff on the lets_g...I read this mail after all the stuff on the lets_go group. I agree that the blog is very thought provoking, but I have to clarify some points here. <BR/>1. the Victorian era was not like we know it in the beginning, it was an age of debauchery, but when her husband died, the queen banned all forms of extra-curricular activities. <BR/>2. Has anyone given a thought that the person who wants to act out his fantasy is just looking for a quick lay and not interested in actually seeing that his fantasy is worked out. <BR/>3. On the subject of fantasies, please read any of the books of Nancy Friday, they are thought provoking.Santosh Nambyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16878671657432089812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18306572.post-1152370339579568182006-07-08T07:52:00.000-07:002006-07-08T07:52:00.000-07:00Our social systems are such that it is sometimes c...Our social systems are such that it is sometimes considered a sign of weakness to 'give in' .. more of a 'woman's thing' to bend rather than a man.<BR/> Keeping that in mind ..when a man has sexual urge during his mid life crisis it is the'power of control' that our social system puts in place that doesnt allow him to approach his wife. of what u said I dont have any idea bout other family conditions of this man .. probably sex leading to accidently pregnancy cant be risked and therefore need for sex with third party.. the reasons could really be linked to a whole lot of issues though..<BR/><BR/>glad to see the comments and the thoughtAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18306572.post-1150454666257088452006-06-16T03:44:00.000-07:002006-06-16T03:44:00.000-07:00This is very intriguing stuff. The best part is wh...This is very intriguing stuff. The best part is whenever we are posed with such kind of situation we take on the role of Judge and start making critical acclaims about Morals and the issues linked with it. We love to pass judgements. Why So? And why would I think that its a social Problem. <BR/>Its purely that guys personal view point and personal Preferences. <BR/>Even if he talks to his wife to fulfil his fantasy , he will still find many unexplored areas, which will again justify his going back to one night stands. <BR/>I think we all have fantasies. Even woman have more fantasy's than men..as i would assume. <BR/>The difference is in the method of expression. For guys its easy to pick up One Night Stands ( Paid or Unpaid) . Lets not forget there are many many unpaid one night stands/ encounters one comes thru. So mind you on the other end is a woman only , who is not charging but in some way is fulfilling her fantasies. <BR/>Why is it that when a man has a one night stand , people pass a judgement on his adulturous ways. All of us have been adulturous in some way or another. <BR/>I would term a man and a woman going out for a drink and spending a few hours together without their family knowing is adultery too.Why should only the final physical act taken as adultery. <BR/>There is nothing called a partial sexual orientation or a full orientation. You can do uptil here and not beyond...doesnt absolve you of the so call sin/merit of sex. It just a self justification. Thats all. <BR/><BR/>What about married women who have affairs with men or vice vers. While the entire theme is Physical and Mental gratification : it is often coloured as unhappiness in the house, uncaring attitude of the husband etc etc. <BR/><BR/>Listen , let all of us come out of our self inflicted Moral justifications. Moral Parameters can be different in different environments and circumstances. <BR/><BR/>What is important is that we do what we feel is right or dont do what we feel is wrong. I enjoy drinking but for some it may be wrong...u know what I mean.<BR/><BR/>At least that guy is honest ( if he is) to say that he goes for one night stands to fulfil his fantasies. He could have taken a stance that he is deeply depressed on account of Maritial problems and therefore needs a outlet. Well we would have sympathised with him...eh right.<BR/><BR/>And I also do feel that in a Husband - wife relationship it does happen that sex becomes a perfunctionary act and looses the adventure attached to it. A new face can invigorate it. <BR/><BR/>Hey I am not passing a judgement at all whether he is right or wrong.<BR/><BR/>All I am saying is Let all make merry and do what they like the best as long as they are not inflicting pain and suffering on someone els. <BR/><BR/>CheersAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18306572.post-1148635012947461302006-05-26T02:16:00.000-07:002006-05-26T02:16:00.000-07:00I am a single still unmarried and my thought was t...I am a single still unmarried and my thought was that a man can satisfy all his fantasies with his own wife.<BR/>At present I think, that i can share all my fanatsies to my future wife who ever she will be because there is no other deep intimate relationship except b/w husbsnd snd wife and this man is not able to share it with his wife then surely I want to remember a quote which my senoior said "If 1 thousand women come in a way of a man,he will try to xplore each and every of them with out a thought or hesitation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18306572.post-1148634904666061162006-05-26T02:15:00.000-07:002006-05-26T02:15:00.000-07:00I am a single still unmarried and my thought was t...I am a single still unmarried and my thought was that a man can satisfy all his fantasies with his own wife.<BR/>At present I think, that i can share all my fanatsies to my future wife who ever she will be because there is no other deep intimate relationship except b/w husbsnd snd wife and this man is not able to share it with his wife then surely I want to remember a quote which my senoior said "If 1 thousand women come in a way of a man,he will try to xplore each and every of them with out a thought a hesitation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18306572.post-1147814811720477882006-05-16T14:26:00.000-07:002006-05-16T14:26:00.000-07:00@ SouthPaw, Ramit..So this is a social problem.......@ SouthPaw, Ramit..<BR/>So this is a social problem.... but shouldn't we be doing somehting about it?? Does anybody thinks the rampant rape can have anything to do with this social problem??<BR/><BR/>@ Ramit<BR/>Talk..but that's the whole point, here the person is embarrassed to talk because of his upbrining in a particular manner or whatever..<BR/><BR/>The social attributes of sexuality gotta change...... I ask....where should the change begin to occur?<BR/><BR/>@ ?<BR/>?? Couldn't get you dude... Sexual intelligence? Victorian Era? <BR/><BR/>@ Ajay<BR/>A very practical and doable appoach.. kinda my approach too... but a little straight jacketed... This man's case is different<BR/><BR/>@ ALL <BR/>Thanks for commenting <BR/>Hoping to see more comments would be summing up the discussion soon..along with some more thoughtsSanjuktahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17512206498275295419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18306572.post-1147798971378199812006-05-16T10:02:00.000-07:002006-05-16T10:02:00.000-07:00They are all over the place. Men and women. The in...They are all over the place. Men and women. The internet makes infidelity and temptation easier. I won't tell another person how to live their life, but I will say that people are finding new ways to vent their unhappiness.Enemy of the Republichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17342253341470198835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18306572.post-1147786480931183182006-05-16T06:34:00.000-07:002006-05-16T06:34:00.000-07:00well the whole discussion is pretty rhetorical.......well the whole discussion is pretty rhetorical....u hav mentioned an dmost of us who have commented do agree that its a Social issue....and yea its a very pertinent Social issue......<BR/><BR/>answers are pretty much what u hav given and have been posted by all u ppl out there....it is best talked & sorted out within the couple...<BR/><BR/>rest lemme assure will never work...<BR/><BR/>ramitAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18306572.post-1147786403137063682006-05-16T06:33:00.000-07:002006-05-16T06:33:00.000-07:00well the whole discussion is pretty rhetorical.......well the whole discussion is pretty rhetorical....u hav mentioned that its a Social issue....and yea its a very pertinent Social issue......<BR/><BR/>answers are pretty much what u hav given....best talked & sorted out within the couple...<BR/><BR/>rest lemme assure will never work...<BR/><BR/>ramitAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18306572.post-1147776336843238662006-05-16T03:45:00.000-07:002006-05-16T03:45:00.000-07:00If the guy is seriously looking for one-night stan...If the guy is seriously looking for one-night stands elsewhere, I'll say there's something seriously wrong in their mariage, and all that talk about him loving his wife is all bunkum.<BR/>What happens if he does indulge in a one-night stand, and he ends up liking it?(which he probably will)<BR/>what does he do then? wont he be tempted to do it again? And woldnt then it be called cheating?<BR/>While it is basic human nature to seek pleasure, but monetary bpdily pleasure may carry along with the risk of major casues of woe?<BR/>and one more thing, ask him how he would react if he finds out if his wife starts seeking pleasure elsewhere as weel. what happens to the marriage, and to their daughter?<BR/>This guy is about to open a can of worms. I hope someone drills some sense into him b4 its too late.<BR/>While I agree marriage in todays times is not essential to be in a relationship, whatever the society may say, but still; once he has committed himself to one, he shold learn to control his baser urges.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18306572.post-1147757386525588712006-05-15T22:29:00.000-07:002006-05-15T22:29:00.000-07:00interesting.lots of people seem to think that sexu...interesting.<BR/><BR/>lots of people seem to think that sexual "intelligence" seems to be a product of a hangover of a 'victorian' society . . .<BR/><BR/>you think ??https://www.blogger.com/profile/04467473810474491373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18306572.post-1147720135101897532006-05-15T12:08:00.000-07:002006-05-15T12:08:00.000-07:00u urself has validated ur point...yep our society ...u urself has validated ur point...yep our society is very much to play a vital role...its the upbringin' n culture tht we entertain makes it hard to free frm such clutches.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18306572.post-1147718172265889472006-05-15T11:36:00.000-07:002006-05-15T11:36:00.000-07:00@ Amit and I am 9 This has nothing to do with marr...@ Amit and I am 9 <BR/>This has nothing to do with marriage... Of course marriage isn't important..who says it is... and No way.. nothing gives tickets to adultery.. <BR/><BR/>But I am asking a simple question here... Is it a social problem that this man is embarassed of his sexual fantasy and can't talk about it with his wife..???Sanjuktahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17512206498275295419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18306572.post-1147716995003068632006-05-15T11:16:00.000-07:002006-05-15T11:16:00.000-07:00Being married doesn't give a ticket to adultery......Being married doesn't give a ticket to adultery...its a total loss of direction one is headin' for.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18306572.post-1147690573170054742006-05-15T03:56:00.000-07:002006-05-15T03:56:00.000-07:00hmm....they shd nt hv eaten the apple at the 1st p...hmm....they shd nt hv eaten the apple at the 1st place...encounter specialisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02668762705358149382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18306572.post-1147672118237943152006-05-14T22:48:00.000-07:002006-05-14T22:48:00.000-07:00Is being married important in the first place?Very...Is being married important in the first place?<BR/><BR/>Very thought provoking, as south paw said.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com